“Instructions for living a life: Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.” ― Mary Oliver
Shopping as sport. The Galleria in Edina and Nordstroms were two of my very favorite places to stroll and shop. Why? I enjoyed the calm and well-edited stores, wafting with lovely scents and populated by people who are there to serve you and stealthily alleviate whatever reservations you may have about parting with large sums of money. But the last two times I visited I saw something very different. Mostly just a lot of beautiful things that I don’t need, or may even already have. Somehow it started to feel like a waste of time to shop so often – blasphemy, I know!
Speaking of time…I also went ahead and unsubscribed myself from about 30 different email lists. Over time I’d shopped online so much that I was getting about 100 emails A DAY just from shops like J. Crew, Restoration Hardware, Scoop NYC, Saks Fifth Avenue, and the like. It was a giant waste of time to sift through those and clean out my email all the time – and for what? Because I might “miss out” on a “limited time only” sale?? B.S. These places are so promotional now that there is always some sale on. Those email lists are just a ploy to create a sense of urgency in a world where they otherwise wouldn’t be, because you actually have a life. A whole life that now, doesn’t revolve around running to the store or clicking on an ad every time they send an email.
This challenge makes me realize how much of my life DOES revolve around food. This is pretty common, as it’s a way to socialize, enjoy yourself, and yes, actually get sustenance (though that’s rarely what we use it for these days!) But I noticed I was doing was using fun food stops to fill time in between activities or in those rare down times with my kids! A favorite bakery, the ice cream shop, a neighborhood breakfast spot, whatever… With my new budget limits I noticed right away because my first inclination to take them someplace had to be stopped and redirected.
The upside? Instead we went to the park one day to ride bikes, headed to a walking trail near our house with their scooter and wagon, and one day just stayed home and played doll house rather than go out. Could a positive side effect of this thing be losing weight?! Well, one can dream.